I love a girl very much. and going to propose her. I love her that much as I can only see her as my wife. But sometimes i'm not able to trust her. I think she is lying. So that should I do to increase my faith in her. I do not want to loose her.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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You have not mentioned whether she loves you too. That will make a huge difference to this issue you are facing. If she loves you too, you must learn to trust her until she proves she is trustworthy. You have not mentioned on what basis you have a lack of faith in her. If hse has proven that she cannot be trusted it would indeed be foolish to trust such a person however much you love her. Anyway, when you are in a relationship you must trust the person and if you cannot then give up the girl and find someone you can trust. Trust is integral to any relationship. Whenever you feel she is lying and you have proof, then confront her and see how she responds. It is better to deal with the lying now than later. Another thing, do not think of marriage at this juncture. it is too early and there will be many other girls who will cause your heart to flutter. That is exactly why we have an engagement: to find out whether you can make it with this girl by discovering her traits and to see if they match yours. When you have an agenda like marriage up front, you will rui9n the relationship by wanting to own the person and controlling and such things that will destroy the courtship. You may be insecure yourself and I am wondering whether you are suitable for her or not. You just have to trust her and when she really proves that she lies too much, then you can take a call even if she is your dream girl. All of us lie even you. So I do not know what moral compass you think you are following but check that out first and see if she and you are within the bounds of normal lying. 

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