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First Time Sex - 6 Tips and Tricks for You

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Dr. Ajay Kumar GuptaSexologist • 43 Years Exp.MBBS
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Anything that's done the first time can be nerve-wracking. It holds true for sex also. For men, it would be all about being able to perform; women, on the other hand, usually look at sex as an indicator of a relationship's potential.

Whether you're a woman or a man, keep these points in mind to make the best of the first time together with your partner.

1. Don't go in with a lot of expectations

You need to remember that sex improves with time as you become more comfortable with each other. Sex for the first time is not the be-all and end-all of things; it's just the first of several that you'll be having.

2. Breathe to release tension

Long and deep breaths are the key to beating the tension that gets built up around having sex for the very first time. This small tip can help to make your first less stressful, and more amazing.

3. Don't forget to kiss or miss foreplay

A study in evolutionary psychology reveals that only 1 out of 7 women agrees to sleep with men without indulging in foreplay first. Men must remember that women are not always on the lookout for just sex, but something beyond that. Men should try to reassure the women with lots of kissing and touching. They could begin by planting gentle kisses.

4. Descend Slowly

On average, it takes about 8 minutes for a woman to be aroused before she desires her clitoris to be stimulated. Doubling, this time, is a good practice as it takes that much to reach orgasm. Spending 15 minutes of your time playing around with your partner's body before descending is what you should aim for during your first time.

5. Don't Blame Yourself

Women tend to blame themselves if their partner experiences erection difficulty or premature ejaculation. But such problems are typical, with the root cause being anxiety surrounding the occasion than you. So don't waste time beating yourself up over it, rather enjoy the moment. As many as 80% of women cannot reach orgasm through sexual intercourse.

6. Every Sexual Encounter is Distinct

It's very common for folks who are having sex for the first time to not speak up and let their partner know what's making them feel good and what's not. This is incorrect. You should not assume that your partner is an expert on sex. Even if he or she is more experienced than you, every sexual encounter is not the same. This holds true for men as well as for women. So be open and talk about what turns you on.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

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