Happy Relationship - How To Attain It?

We are social animals. We stay in groups and like to be connected, with family and friends.

A Relationship is a “bond” or a “feeling” that develops between two individuals as a result of some interaction between them. Throughout our life, we have different types of relationships with different people. Every relationship in our life is very important. But many times these relationships become a major cause of concern when they induce a lot of stress and imbalance in our lives. Hence understanding relationships are very important.

We are conditioned to believe that “love” is unconditional and relationships are all about sacrifice. This is not true.

All relationships are like two-way paths – there is always “give” and “take” in every relationship. We are giving something and receiving something in each relationship. This “Give” and “Take” may be in material form (physical) like money, gifts, food, clothing, gadgets etc. or non-material form (emotional) like love, care, respect, joy etc. In each relationship, we are receiving and giving something either in physical form or in the emotional form.

E.g. 1. A mother taking care of all the needs of a newborn baby, is providing all the physical and emotional support to the baby. In return, the mother gets immense joy, a sense of containment.

E.g. 2. In the office, you get paid for the services you are offering.

So it is important to understand that every relationship is “Give and Take” and there is nothing wrong in it. Now, consider that, what you are “giving” is the “Cost” you are paying for a relationship and what you are “receiving” is the “reward” you are getting from the relationship.

Now let’s see what causes problems in relationships.

When your “cost” becomes too much for you to pay, compared to the “reward” you are getting from any relationship, then this kind of relationship feels like a burden. Where there is very little or no “reward” and the “giving or the cost” is very high, the relationship becomes lopsided.

It is important to understand that sometimes your Cost will be higher than the reward and vice versa. It is not possible to achieve a perfect balance between what you are giving and what you are receiving. But it needs to be fairly balanced, over a period of time.

Lopsided relationships become dysfunctional and sometimes may become toxic.

To achieve a reasonable balance in relationships it is important to understand and satisfy your own needs, stand for your rights and learn effective communication skills. Every relationship is to be “nurtured”. Make efforts to make the other person feel important, loved and cared for and also valuable. This is key to “Happy Relationships”.

Healthy relationships give happiness and peace of mind.