Importance Of Marriage Counselling!

Marriage counseling can only be effective when both the partners are ready to take responsibility for their problems, accept each other’s faults and are willing to attend counseling.

Marriage probably is the most exceptional relationships in one’s life, however; marriages have their fair share of ‘highs’ and ‘lows’ as well. Sliding through these tough times throughout the marriage smoothly is often strenuous and exhausted.

Resentment and tension increase between the couple due to unresolved issues. Couples usually confide in their friends and family to seek help and advice which might seem to work for a short period but in reality, they give a biased opinion.

Marriage has 4 pillars which are necessary for a healthy marriage to stay alive. The relationship goes in trenches if any of the four pillars take a hit.

• Communication - Communication is the footing structure for any wholesome relationship. Arguing, criticizing, disrespect and misunderstanding are some of the issues faced due to communication issues in a marriage.
• Finance - Couples are confronted with financial issues which might lead to conflicts and differences in opinion. Debts, managing daily expenses, overspending, and poor budgeting are some of the common issues seen in couples when they come for marriage counseling.
• Family - Marriage is more than just the couple; it is the engagement with family. Couples coming for counseling often are disturbed by familial interference, parenting issues, and cultural differences. There is an old saying, you don’t just marry a person, but you marry their entire family also.
• Sex and Intimacy - Sex and intimacy are certainly one of the most important parts of marriage. Intimacy includes more than the mere physical act of sex like showing affection and care. Infidelity, impotence and taking for granted attitude are some of the issues in this pillar.

Importance of Marriage Counseling -

1. Safe and Non-judgmental Environment 
   Marriage counseling provides with an environment where the couple can openly talk about their problems without the fear of being judged. The Counsellor makes the couple confident that anything they speak will not be talked about outside the room. Hence, providing a safe space to communicate without hesitation.
    
2. Mediator 
   The counselor acts as a mediator/coach, where they facilitate healthy and effective communication. It is particularly helpful in situations when the clients want to improve but do not know how to or often break into a flight while doing so.
    
3. Analyze Patterns 
   Counseling helps the couple understand the behavioral patterns which lead to the conflict. As a result, the couple identifies the patterns and works with the counselor to change such patterns.
    
4. Tools to improve communication 
   Counselling gives the couples to help improve their communication like interrupting each other while talking or speaking rudely or any other bad habit. Above all, counseling provides a platform where any of these issues can be finally confronted.
    
5. Realistic expectations 
   Counseling helps the couples make a more realistic picture for each other and their expectations from each other. This helps the couple set more realistic goals in the process of counseling and life as well as helps clear misunderstandings and miscommunication.
    
6. Accountability
   Learning new tools helps the couple take more responsibility for their actions. Counselor often assigns homework to learn more account table rather than blame one another.

It is most important to consult an experienced counselor before issues manifest into more severe matters.