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Learn How To 'Make Time For Me Time', For Good Mental Health

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Ms. Anupam Talwar KohliPsychologist • 29 Years Exp.PGDGnC DEPFE, MA - Psychology
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We are often told of the absolute importance of putting ourselves first. Valuing ourselves. Loving ourselves 'take time out for yourself' we are told'make time for me time. But how is it to be done? what are we supposed to do in the'me time?

'me time' can be as unique as each of us. It can be done in many many different ways. It's all about experimenting and discovering what works for you. 

Mindless me times which are best avoided:

Often we spend our'me time' endlessly browsing through social media, playing games on our mobile, binge eating, binge watching the tv. Such activities (those that may be prefixed by'endlessly' or'binge') may on occasion, actually leave us feeling low, disconnected and listless and therefore these qualify as'not so healthy me times' and are best kept to'only very occasionally. 

Stress buster, mindless me times:

At other times our'me time' may include reading a book, watching a favourite tv serial, taking a walk, listening to music, dancing with gay abandon, eating an indulgent snack. I like to call these'mindless me times. These are great and extremely effective for de-stressing, taking a break and rejuvenating our energies. I recommend treating yourself to at least one'mindless me time' each day.

'mindful me times, an absolute must:

These are the'me times' when you choose to consciously and deliberately spend time with yourself. You look inwards, introspect, get to know yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself, reassure yourself, applaud yourself, sympathise with yourself, appreciate yourself, encourage yourself. Basically, you give yourself whatever it is that you need from a true friend, at this moment in life.


Mindful me time essentials:

*alone, no disturbances no distractions, just you and your thoughts.

*in calm comfortable secure surroundings (whether simply at home or at an exotic holiday destination. That's your pick)

*celebrate yourself, by reminiscing,
-things about you that you are proud of,
-the obstacles you may have overcome,
-your achievements big and small,
-the joys of your life
-the sorrows that that are now past tense.

*forgive yourself for your follies.

*applaud yourself for your patience, courage. Whatever it is that defines you.

*get in touch with the real you. The imperfectly unique and beautiful you.

*understand yourself, appreciate yourself, accept yourself as you are. All of it - the good the bad the ugly.

Be patient, be persistent. Once you get to know you, you'll most definitely start enjoying your own company. Because no one can truly understand, appreciate and value you, the way you can. 

If you haven't done it so far, make a beginning today, at experimenting with'mindful me times. Even undergoing counseling sessions, focussed on discovering, understanding and accepting yourself qualify as'mindful me times.

 These are the ultimate self-care routine, and are an absolute'must' for maintaining good mental health and hygiene.

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