Hello, I am 32 year old male, recently got married 5 months back. My problem is that I don't get excited during intimacy. Can you help me in that?

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Dear lybrate user. Please don?t panic. You must understand ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION. There is nothing called erectile dysfunction while having masturbation. Loosing erection in the initial stages of sex or not having erection at all or having late erection or lack of sexual desire are called erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of a physical or psychological condition. It can cause stress, relationship strain, and low self-confidence. I suggest sex therapy.  The main symptom is a man's inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. Patients suffering from erectile dysfunction should first be evaluated for any underlying physical and psychological conditions. If treatment of the underlying conditions doesn't help, medications and assistive devices, such as pumps, can be prescribed. Yoga, meditation and diet could be prescribed once we know the basic reasons for it. Two natural treatments for ED that have shown promise are red ginseng and pomegranate juice. Ginseng is thought to increase nitric oxide production, leading to improved blood flow. Pomegranate juice is a potent antioxidant and can help too. Watermelon could also help. Psychological reasons usually get cleared with sex therapy.  I suggest online sex therapy. Take care.

K V Anand · Accepted Answer

Dear lybrate user. Please don?t panic. You must understand ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION. There is nothing called erectile dysfunction while having masturbation. Loosing erection in the initial stages of sex or not having erection at all or having late erection or lack of sexual desire are called erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of a physical or psychological condition. It can cause stress, relationship strain, and low self-confidence. I suggest sex therapy.  The main symptom is a man's inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. Patients suffering from erectile dysfunction should first be evaluated for any underlying physical and psychological conditions. If treatment of the underlying conditions doesn't help, medications and assistive devices, such as pumps, can be prescribed. Yoga, meditation and diet could be prescribed once we know the basic reasons for it. Two natural treatments for ED that have shown promise are red ginseng and pomegranate juice. Ginseng is thought to increase nitric oxide production, leading to improved blood flow. Pomegranate juice is a potent antioxidant and can help too. Watermelon could also help. Psychological reasons usually get cleared with sex therapy.  I suggest online sex therapy. Take care.

Rahul Gupta · Answer

Hello-
Loss of libido (sex drive) is a common problem affecting up to one in five men at some point in their life.
It's often linked to professional and personal stress. However, an unexpected loss of libido especially when it lasts for a long time or keeps returning and indicate an underlying personal, medical or lifestyle problem, which can be upsetting to both partners in a relationship.

If you're concerned about your libido, especially if your diminished sex drive distresses you or affects your relationship, it's time to make a bold move by accepting it and searching for best options available. Certain aphrodisiac herbs (in ayurveda) and specific tips can offer significant help for this condition and overall sexual well-being.