Sir my friend stammers in front of others. But at home he speaks fluently. When he talks with other his heartbeat increases, he becomes anxious and he stammers. Suggest ways to overcome.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi, for you friend, its due to social anxiety. Here are few tips. Try to spend less time focusing on your own physical symptoms in social situations. Remember anxiety is much less visible than you imagine. Even if you are visibly anxious, it does not necessarily mean that you will be thought badly of. Anxiety is something we all experience and it does not make you unusual. Just because you feel anxious, it does not mean that you are performing poorly. Remember - you are not the central focus of everyone's attention. There are plenty of other things for people to think and talk about. Really try to concentrate on the conversation you are involved in. Don't think about how you appear or how well you are performing. Don't replay parts of the conversation in your mind, instead just focus on what is being said in the present moment. We do not need to perform perfectly or brilliantly in every social interaction we have, no-one can achieve such high standards. Just be yourself - don't'put on a front. Why bother when it is impossible for everyone to like us anyway. Take proper counseling if problem persists:) 

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