I was sexually harassed when I was young and since then I hate sex but whenever I want to have sex with my boyfriend it pains me alot and have stop trying it. What can I do to make the penetration less painful.

Dr. Sudhir BholaSexologist24yrs exp

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Engaging in extended foreplay can help relax the body and increase natural lubrication, making penetration more comfortable. Adequate lubrication is vital to reduce friction and minimize pain during intercourse. Water-based or silicone-based lubricants can be used to enhance lubrication if needed. Relaxation techniques: incorporating relaxation techniques before and during sexual activity can help reduce anxiety and tension in the body, potentially alleviating pain. Deep breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, or taking a warm bath beforehand may aid in promoting relaxation. Positioning: experimenting with different sexual positions may help find one that minimizes discomfort. Some individuals find that being on top allows them to have more control over the depth and pace of penetration, reducing pain. Additionally, using pillows or cushions for support can provide added comfort. Pelvic floor exercises: strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through exercises such as kegels may help improve muscle tone and control, potentially reducing pain during intercourse. Consult with a healthcare professional or a pelvic floor therapist for guidance on performing these exercises correctly. If the pain persists or worsens despite trying the above strategies, it is essential to seek medical evaluation.  

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