Breaking Barriers

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I’m Atika. I am a counselling psychologist. I have over 11 years of experience. I have seen a varied range of issues. Ranging from marital, pre-marital, self-esteem, parent-child, work stress to mental illness and suicide. Over the last 4 to 5 years. The number of clients who come to me for relationship issues has gone up considerably as compared to earlier as I would see more clients or families with mental illness. This rise in seeking relationship counselling. Could be because of increasing the awareness. But more importantly, it is because of the fragility of relationship nowadays. As human beings, we are social beings. We need to live in a society. We need to live in a community. We need to be interdependent and need to be connected. However what change in times the focus I becoming more of myself. It is all about me. My inspirations. my ambitions. my needs. my wants. my desires. It’s not bad to think about oneself. When the self-become selfish that is where the problem arises. As when we only focus on ourselves and our needs. We cannot put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and empathise with them. And due to this mindset, the number of divorces in the recent past has gone up considerably. We have a zero threshold. Zero tolerance. If I am not happy. I don’t think I need to make an effort to make this relationship work. If I am not getting what I want, let me end it now. It’s become that easy. The reason why our grandparents our parent’s marriages worked was that they were growing up in the joint family where they learned to adjust from the beginning.

The concept was more ours then mines. There was shared responsibility. There were fewer expectations and more solid support system. So I would recommend, before getting into any relationships especially if it marriage it is important that we seek pre-marital counselling. As what it does is it provides a platform to two individuals who belong to different backgrounds who grown up with a different set of value system to really talk about their expectations from each other or from the marriage their views on children, or in-laws, on finances, on how the gonna handle conflict so therefore when they enter matrimony they are equipped as they have a better understanding of each other also there is something that is non-negotiable to all of us. So it is better to come aware of these things in our partner. In our spouses before we actually commit for a lifetime. To ensure that it is going to be a smooth sailing. However, unfortunately, a lot of times marriages do get in the conflict then it is important to seek professional help. Before individuals become so bruise that the damage is beyond repair. If you like to know more about me or marriage pre-marital counselling I would like you to connect with me through breakingbarriers.co.in or connect with me through Lybrate. I practice at sector 28 Novida. Thank You.

Hi, I am Atika. I am a counselling psychologist and I have been practising from last 11 years. I have seen very dangerous mental issues ranging from relationships, marital issues, work stress, parent child, low confidence, too much mental illness and suicide. Today I am going to talk about "Investing in oneself emotionally". As I feel that a lot of our problems arise because we do not look after our emotions like anger, stress and then it all leads to breakdown. We all invest in our career, our ambitions, our standard of living, even in our physical health. Somehow we do not pay attention to our mental health whereas the overall well being depends on the physical as well as the emotional health.

As we grow from our infant to our adulthood, we are taught to take care of our physical health like how to dress, how to eat, how to take care of our physical needs. But somehow, we are not taught that how to take care of our emotional health like that of love, appreciation, acceptance, acknowledgement, companionship.

What happens when these emotional needs are not met?

It will gradually develop into frustration, anger, stress, and eventually a breakdown. 

So how do we take care of our emotional needs?

• First of all, it is very important to become aware of them. What is the emotional need? To feel acceptance? To feel loved? To feel appreciated? This is required to be identified.
• Second is to acknowledge them, that yes these exist, these needs exist through our life.
• Third is to accept them, to embrace them
• Fourth is to deal with them, to cope with them in a healthy manner.

How can u do all these?

It is important to seek for a counselling. We go to a psychologist or a counsellor who can provide unbiased, safe environment where one can share their deepest fear. Talk about the fear which they are going through, without the fear of being judged. And gradually through the counselling process, we get to know that what drives us, what motivates us, what are our emotional needs and how we fulfill them in a healthy manner.

People who take care of their physical well being, mental well being and emotional well being, are more productive and more fulfilling life. They have better relationships, they are more productive, they are good at work and they are happier individuals.

If you want to know more about emotional needs or more interesting topics or psychological needs, you can contact me through Lybrate or breakingbarriers.co.in.

My clinic is in Sec- 28, Noida. You can come and visit me there for an appointment.

Thank you.