Hello, I am 38 years old and married in 2008. My wife's age is 35 years old. Since last 1.5 years, my wife's psychological behavior has been changed. Currently both of us thought are not matched. We are in position like magnetic needle north-south. From my side, she has full freedom. I was observed that she is in the menstrual period, the condition was worse.

Ms. Hemal Sanjay KuntePsychologist5yrs exp

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Dear Lybrate User, Many couples think that they are poles apart. Husband and wife come from a different family/cultural/social/financial/educational backgrounds and each of them has a firm set of values and beliefs. Each one believes that only his/her values and beliefs are right/true and the other person is wrong, hence the conflict starts. In the initial period of marriage, each partner is trying to make the other partner happy and while doing so they compromise a lot on their own needs. At this stage in the relationship, there are no "personal boundaries" - everything belongs to both of them and both try to adjust a lot. But, as the time goes by, the "personal boundaries" start snapping back and this is the stage in the relationship, where the conflict starts. In a marital relationship, it is important to understand the needs and feelings of one's spouse. Giving each other, appropriate personal space and respecting other partner's views is also essential. Effective communication is vital for any relationship. It is possible that due to hormonal changes your wife might be experiencing some mood swings, but it need not cause so much disturbance in your family life. You may seek Professional help if you are in distress. Please consult a Marriage Counsellor. Take care.  

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