Hello sir, My Husband is 33 years old and he his armed person so he take alcohol too much. Woh pura din nashe main rehte hain. Khana bhi nahi khate acche se. Bas pura din sharab hi pini hain aur humain bachhe bhi nahi hain lekin woh koi baat sunte hi nahi hain unki wajaah se main depressed feel karti hoon kyunki unko adat ho gayi hain sarab ki aur woh samajhte nahi hain ki woh unko kitna androni nuksan kar rahi hain pls help me and advice me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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He is a serious addict to alcohol and needs immediate attention. If he is in the army, he can be reported to his officer in command. You have all my sympathies and I am very concerned that your husband has not reached what we call, ?Hitting Rock Bottom? as yet. To me his Rock Bottom seems to be death i.e. Only death can stop his addiction! Anyway do not despair as yet and you may attempt the following and see how it works: I know you have tried a de-addiction center but he should not have been released if he was not ready. So in this attempt, he may be taken to another de-addiction center that are stricter and will also have follow up treatment and AA meetings for him to compulsorily attend. Ideally, your husband should want to give up alcohol himself to begin with. If not, it is going to be an uphill task and to the most part impossible. However, you should not be in want of trying. If he is unwilling to seek help, he needs to be admitted to a rehabilitation center for at least 6 months. If not, there are centers who will come and pick him up when he is drunk, when his resistance will be ineffective. This will require mom's permission and written consent. After your husband returns from therapy, there will be a lot of follow-ups, both in the house and in his daily activities that must be meticulously adhered to. There is a medicine called Disulfiram, which only the doctor can prescribe, and it is very powerful that even if he attempts to drink a small quantity, he can have serious reactions that may sometimes entail hospitalization. You have to monitor his intake of the medicine and keep a close watch on him. He also has to go for regular counseling for at least three years! Apart from his health, he will also affect the family who will carry genetic factors for alcoholism. If he is working, he will soon not be able to continue and he will go into financial ruin. He will lose all his friends and become ostracized by his society. He will lose his dignity, self-esteem, self-confidence, and become a misfit. He will also lose his sexual capacity, liver function, heart function, kidney etc. Now it is difficult to give up because he has become addicted to alcohol for some time and has a lot to do. The consumption of Antabuse has to be carefully monitored to see that he not only consumes the medication but is also avoiding alcohol. Ultimately, it is his will power and the support that he receives from the medical fraternity and his close and dear ones. He must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course take a look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ?cross addictions? i.e. Another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide him on several measures and precautions he will need to take to stay with his resolve. Even after the rehabilitation he must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. The family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. He cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to his drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. Now you should not give up on him but neither should you harass him. Be continuously after him and in the end, you will succeed.  

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