Hi, My problem is not that serious but it sometimes frustrate me. I am a girl 25 years old who is sexually active. The actual problem is I only have an orgasm when I masturbate myself. My partner tries his best when he makes love to me but I don't get it, infact I never ever got it in my life, it only happened only when I masturbated myself. I want to have orgasms with my partner only, at least for once. I feel guilty about masturbating, if I would be able to get that orgasm with my partner then I will also have a sense of purity with pleasures. I am already trying to have full control on myself not to masturbate, will that work? Please help.

Dr. Jagadeesan M.S.Psychiatrist14yrs exp

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masturbating yourself and getting orgasms is healthy behavior, so dont feel guilty about it. Ask your partner to try these to satisfy a woman, 10tips to satisfy ladies in bed 1. Go to the bottom of her: If all else fails, this usually succeeds. If you?re having a tough time getting your lady warmed up for the act, just go down on her and spend time there, she will be ready quick. Gentle licks in clit will instantly turn her on. 2. Take time during foreplay. Most men hurry the foreplay bit without any consideration for the woman they?re with. Take your time before penetration, and both of you will enjoy sex a lot more. Men should learn to do foreplay for long time as woman enjoy them more, foreplay games are also fun. 3. Remember her erotic zones. Each woman has unique erogenous zones which you will know by stimulation and don?t forget to stimulate them thoroughly each time. It can be behind neck, ears, back, inner thigs, hips. Knee, so on?. Kiss and nibble the entire length of her body and make sure you remember the zones that excite her more than the others. It?ll always come in handy the next time you want to arouse her faster. 4. Don?t roll over and sleep. After sex just don?t ignore her and sleep alone, just cuddle and do post play and sleep with her. 5. Your hygiene matters. Looking good for your woman makes a huge difference in the experience she has in bed. After all, a better looking partner is more of a turn on, isn?t it? But you need to remember that looking good doesn?t just mean a six pack abs. Have a shower and nice perfume which doesn?t taste bitter. 6. Kiss and tell. Women have an active imagination and tend to rely on feelings more than visual appearances. If you want to turn your woman on and satisfy her in bed, arouse her mind by using the right words. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears or talk about her favorite fantasies. As long as you excite her mind with your seductive words, she will have great orgasms. Play sex games. 7. Don?t be selfish. If you want to know how to satisfy a woman in bed, this is as simple as it gets. Put your woman?s needs in bed before yours. Understand her preferences in bed, be it about the dim lighting or the right side of the bed, and make sure she?s feeling comfortable enough to enjoy having sex. Allow her to get orgasm first. 8. Experiment all the time. Use various positions and not the usual missionary position, try various fantasies. Try all possible things both like. 9 The right compliments. Compliment your women?s body, her breasts and whatever you like, she will be get turned on more. 10 Bite, lick and suck. Kissing is sensual and romantic. But don?t stop there. Let her feel your passion when you bite her and tongue her body. And here?s something to remember, a good love bite in the strategic regions will still feel just as passionate to a woman even after several years of going out with each other. Don?t be inhibited during passion and allow her to be wild as well. 

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