Hi, My bf shows certain traits which really hurts and disturbs me a lot. He would become aggressive in small things, try and control me, give restrictions. Used to blame me and thinks himself to be the correct one. As he is 28 years now and is unemployed he seems to be quite tensed. But he also has the habit of taking marijuana, alcohol and cigarettes. Moreover, he's too emotional and makes me feel that he loves me like anything but sometimes makes me feel unwanted Doctor I love him so much and I don't want to walk out I just want your advice how to treat him and make him good.

Mr. Senthilkumar LPsychologist14yrs exp

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Hello Friend, Good that you are seeking a help here. Behaviors with anger, irritation, frustration, Mood swing, violent behavior, hurtful words are expression or outburst of stress in the mind. It's quite possible with his unemployment status, he can easily get triggered for stress and depression. More over, bad habits like smoking and alcohol can increase the symptoms. Suggest to take a relationship counseling first to understand and set a clear expectations in your relationship. He need to agree for change in his habits, behavior and commit the relationship. Would advise you to take the first level counseling to find the ways to manage your emotional level first before addressing your bf problems. Feel free to reach me online or call for further evaluation and recommendation.  

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