I'm 37 years and married for the past 8 years n having 2 kids. I love my wife a lot and we had a good sexual life but the problem is I don't know why but I have lost interest in having sex with her n i'm unable to get in the mood n I don't want to disappoint her. I want to know if it will be good to try viagra or should I opt for any other medicine.

Dr. Krishnan Nair M PGeneral Physician47yrs exp

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Dear Lybrate user, as you know ---your and your partner's mutually supported mental and physical action is the base of erection and continued action in sex ---ending in orgasm of one or both partners---for this--i can give you few tips---have sex when both are physically and mentally ready; happy and willing for sex-- before the act-both partners can take a clean bath and wear presentable dress with some make-up and using lavender or such erotic smelling flowers in lady's make up and both use body scents ; mouth deodourisers etc. Both have to appreciate and approve beauty of other partner and their special characters related to sex with fore play for few minutes to arouse sexual feelings of partner--both may approve some demands and desires of partner then --to boost positive feelings in him/her. Both dedicate to one another and slowly proceed to orgasm; don't think or talk of your family problems ;office; homely problems etc during these minutes. You may take some nerve stimulants ;zinc tabs; vitamin e; bcomplex; tonics ;food with aphrodisiacs (available ---some in health shops//grocery shops/flip cart /amazon etc)--- saffron; oysters ; honey ; maca/tribules/ fenugreeck ; pistachio nuts chasteberry ; epimedium ; ginkgo ; apple ; strawberries ; chilli; figs ; banana; potato ; /stimulant effect --mostly getting -by use for few months ---also exercise ;good sleep ; reduced stress levels ;yoga ; meditation ; mindfulness;; tours and picnic to reduce stress and renew intimacy ; outtings with food; entertainments like cinema are helpful--simultaneously you can get confidence and prolonged erection during sex in few days -by using medicines--as per doctor's prescription .mobileif lack of interest in her continues even after using this methods for 1-2 months -----please consult a sexologist with lab report of your testosterone levels.--etc.  

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