Dr. I am an unmarred girl, I have got vaginal trauma because of finger, after that finger j I am having pain inside my vagina since 2 years 6 months continuously, while the trauma started 6-7 months after the finger, it hurts a lot when I sit, now there is a fear in my mind that there will be more pain in sex than this, I cannot do it, what should I do, I am getting married in a few months, I am afraid of sex, at what Dr. should I go counseling to get over my fear?

Dr. M S HaqueSexologist38yrs exp

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Seek professional help: it's crucial to consult with a healthcare professional, such as a gynecologist or a urologist, who can assess your condition, conduct necessary examinations, and provide appropriate medical advice and treatment. Gynecologist or urologist: schedule an appointment with a gynecologist (if you are female) or a urologist (if you are male). They specialize in the reproductive and urinary systems and can diagnose any physical issues related to your vaginal pain or trauma. Therapist or counselor: consider seeking help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. They can help you address any psychological or emotional concerns you have about sex or any trauma you've experienced. They can also provide strategies to manage fear and anxiety related to sexual activity. Sex therapist: if your fear and concerns are primarily related to sexual intimacy and your upcoming marriage, you may want to consider consulting a sex therapist. Sex therapists can assist with understanding and addressing sexual issues, fears, and concerns, and they can work with you and your partner to develop strategies for a fulfilling sexual relationship. Open communication: discuss your concerns openly with your future spouse. Good communication and understanding between partners are crucial for a healthy sexual relationship. Sharing your fears and concerns can help create a supportive environment and reduce anxiety. Physical therapy: if the pain is due to muscle tension or physical issues, a pelvic floor physical therapist might be able to help. They can provide exercises and techniques to relax and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which could potentially alleviate some of your pain. 

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