Hi I am australian citizen and divorced living in india. My 7 years daughter lives in brisbane with my ex and new mom. I am brahmin. My parents want to me to get marry. I am 32 years old. I am a mechanical engineer. Not working. Need advice which kind of guy should I marry. I am brahmin gujarati. Brother married and mom teacher and dad doctor. Mom dad retired. And brother is an engineer working in bangalore. My parents are sick aged. I miss my daughter a lot. I do not know the reason why my ex not alowing me to talk with her. Depressed. Thanks

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Hi lybrate-user! I can definitely feel the pain you are going through. Usually when divorced if nothing is wrong on your side, then the judgement usually is for the child to live with you and I wonder why that was not the case to you and why you were not allowed to see her even monthly once. Why could not you appeal again at least to see or talk to your daughter monthly once or twice. Try discussing this with your lawyer. I am suggesting you because I am thinking myself in your situation. Ok regarding choosing a guy as your life partner you need to first understand the person's character well only then you can marry him. First know about his education, status, background of him and his family, any bad habits, then finally build up communication through phone or at your home. Be frank to him about your expectations and ask him to be very loyal and honest in disclosing his expectations as well. If you both finally understand each other well, when you get the confidence and satisfaction to marry him, you can go ahead and start your living. One more suggestion if you think your 7 year old daughter would be safe, her father and new mom will definitely take care of her then, you need not bother because she will definitely come to see you after she grows up. But if in case you are worried about her welfare then you can definitely seek a lawyer to apply just to talk or see your daughter at least once in a month just because you are her blood mother. Take care. Be bold and strong.  

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