Sir, actually my problem is I am feeling so depressed always, lack of confidence, dull. Previously I used to be very active but Y am feeling so sad, depressed. Please tell me some tips to overcome that feeling.

Ms. Rachna MishraPsychologist6yrs exp

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Hello lybrate-user. Please follow all these steps .if it doesn't work then go fro personal counselling in your near by area. To overcome depression you MUST do these 3 things: 1. Improve your sleep. 2. Alter the way you think. 3. Produce much more Serotonin. Before explaining how to achieve the above I should say that I have only joined Quora today so am unfamiliar with usual procedure but as I specialise in overcoming depression without medication I could not leave an individual suffering in the way that you are without responding. I am going to suggest that you visit my website to make use of some free resources. I stress that I am NOT endeavouring to solicit business! You are very welcome to download the two free Hypnosis audio tracks on the site. One will help to improve your sleep pattern, the other will help to reframe your thinking. You will also find a 40 minute video which will explain in more detail what's going on in your mind and why it's happening and what you can do to change things. As for Serotonin, it is a neurochemical which currently you are not producing enough. You need Serotonin to cope with life's pressures, to sleep well, to cope with physical pain, to relax and to be happy! In simple terms, you need to do the following to produce more Serotonin: 1. Positive thinking. 2. Positive Actions. 3. Positive Interactions. Try this right now. Close your eyes and in your mind take yourself back to a time and place that you felt happy, proud, successful, when you felt good about yourself. Maybe you had done something good? Achieved something? Visualise it again, allow yourself to live that moment again. See it and feel it in as much detail as possible. Did you do it? If so, how do you feel now? Do you feel slightly more relaxed? If not, practice again until you do feel something. If you did notice a slight difference in how relaxed you feel, THAT is Serotonin and THAT is what I mean by Positive thinking. Because the way we think, determines which neurochemicals are released and that determines the way we feel and that in turn dictates what we can and can't do, what is and isn't possible! However, it works just as well when visualising the future positively as the brain can't tell the difference between real life and imagination, so decide on some SMALL thing you want to achieve and visualise yourself DOING IT. This will achieve many things which are too long to go into in detail, so please just try it! THEN, start to actually DO these small things you've been visualising. THIS is what I mean by positive actions and they too will produce MORE Serotonin. Lastly, Positive Interactions. You MUST start to Positively Interact with other people to overcome your depression as this is the best source of Serotonin. So to make it easier, use the technique above. Visualise yourself interacting with new people, smiling chatting, laughing etc. This WILL work if you DO IT! I shall close with some words from the great Albert Einstein. He defined 'Insanity' as doing the same things over, and over, and over again and expecting different results. If you want to FEEL different you MUST DO something different! Best wishes.  

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