Last year I had a bad breakup I ,was cheated since the I have trust issues .now I am dating a guy who I caring but all the time I feel he is cheating .i get an anxiety attack. This is consuming me. I can not think anything beyond that. I do not feel like eating .can not concentrate. My past is ruining my present n future. Also 3 years ago I had is constant fear of loosing my father. I always use to feel he will die and same thing I feel now .that he will cheat me. Leave me .i need an help pls help me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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You are entertaining a false notion in your head and this can begin look realy after some indulgence. You are also living too much on the 'edge'. This will ruin your ability to handle stress if you keep increasing yoru levels of self doubt and doubting your BF too. Something can happen to your father if he lives an unhealthy life, otherwise you should expect him to live well. Your levels of anxiety are pretty high and they are making you dysfunctional. If you keep suggesting to your BF that you are suspicious of him, he may actually become like that. YOu must learn to trust the person and if he fails you like your last BF did, then you could dump him or whatever. I believe that you should meet with a counselor and explain your problems to get regular and continuous guidance. For yoru anxiety please take some of these measures: You must immediately seek help from a counselor. In the meantime you must do certain things to build your constitution physically, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Mental stability can be achieved by learning a few skills in handling emotions in an appropriate manner. Stress management skills, which have a lot to do with expressing emotions, will need to be a major part of your recovery program. Emotionally you need the help of a counselor and that will help you tremendously to move from anxiety to normal fear. Please persevere and cooperate through all the support you need and you will come through successfully. Develop your body?s health by physical fitness through exercise, good rest (sleep), and a proper diet. Any way what you need to focus on is to do vigorous exercise of the aerobic kind for the heart?s fitness; meditation for the brain?s fitness; sleep for a well rested mind and body; a sound spiritual well being for good confidence and stability; and a diet with lots of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Vigorous exercise, especially of the callisthenic kind, will make your heart, which is a muscle, grow larger; and then your heart will need to beat less often and you will respond to the anxiety with a calmer disposition. If your mind, constitution, and your emotions are in check and fit, you will never be disturbed again. You need to attend personality development courses, personal grooming courses, conversational skills courses, and definitely a good education will empower you to boost self-confidence and by default self-image. 

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