My father is taking anxit since from 3 years in between 1 to 2 month he will leave after that he will continue! Please can you tell me how to come out of it.

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Anxiety has all to do with fear and his inability (or so he would tend to think) to handle the same. Fear is based on looking too much into the future and imagining things that usually do not tend to happen (usually 90% of your fears will not happen). He needs to change his perception of the fearful stimulus then he can change his response to the fear. The first one is the best and will preempt the need for the second. If he is already far gone into the reaction mode, then he needs both responses to counter the attack. The way we see things in life (like half empty or half full glass) is very dependent on our attitude. Attitude may have developed over many years but fortunately can change in a matter of sustained choices made and acted up on now. Accordingly he chooses to see things as either threatening or as an opportunity. The opportunist will be positive and work with the situation to make good out of it. The individual who sees it as threatening, will, out of fear, try to avoid/run away from the situation or react with anxiety. Yes, self-belief does impact it too, but you can see that prior to that, perception will tarnish the belief system too. Here, you can see that all the resolution lies in just changing your perception/attitude, even if it is against odds. Changing your response, despite the perception, is building up of your reserves and resources to handle any contingency that life throws up at you. And life throws up situations quite regularly and heavily. For this he needs to develop a fit mind and body: The former, by meditation and mind exercises; and the later, by exercises and proper diet. He needs good sleep too. Included in the development of the mind is the handling of emotions, in his case, fear. These changes will give him a handle on life and his perceptions and responses. Prayer is really powerful, if you are a spiritual person. Repeat some personally framed affirmations that are geared to calming him down and building confidence. Do a personality course too. Anything that develops one personally will be of great assistance in building resilience. If he needs the help of a counselor, he must be given the same.

Saul Pereira · Accepted Answer

Anxiety has all to do with fear and his inability (or so he would tend to think) to handle the same. Fear is based on looking too much into the future and imagining things that usually do not tend to happen (usually 90% of your fears will not happen). He needs to change his perception of the fearful stimulus then he can change his response to the fear. The first one is the best and will preempt the need for the second. If he is already far gone into the reaction mode, then he needs both responses to counter the attack. The way we see things in life (like half empty or half full glass) is very dependent on our attitude. Attitude may have developed over many years but fortunately can change in a matter of sustained choices made and acted up on now. Accordingly he chooses to see things as either threatening or as an opportunity. The opportunist will be positive and work with the situation to make good out of it. The individual who sees it as threatening, will, out of fear, try to avoid/run away from the situation or react with anxiety. Yes, self-belief does impact it too, but you can see that prior to that, perception will tarnish the belief system too. Here, you can see that all the resolution lies in just changing your perception/attitude, even if it is against odds. Changing your response, despite the perception, is building up of your reserves and resources to handle any contingency that life throws up at you. And life throws up situations quite regularly and heavily. For this he needs to develop a fit mind and body: The former, by meditation and mind exercises; and the later, by exercises and proper diet. He needs good sleep too. Included in the development of the mind is the handling of emotions, in his case, fear. These changes will give him a handle on life and his perceptions and responses. Prayer is really powerful, if you are a spiritual person. Repeat some personally framed affirmations that are geared to calming him down and building confidence. Do a personality course too. Anything that develops one personally will be of great assistance in building resilience. If he needs the help of a counselor, he must be given the same.