Hi doctor, I'm very fearful while picking up the client call and strange people around me. My voice tremble like anything. Though, I know the answer to the client call, I couldn't explain to them comfortably. I feel ashamed when I finished call as I had a bad call. And, when strangers aren't around, my confident and way of speaking is really good. I'm not sure where this fear goes. Please help me. This is my career related issue and I have to come out of this problem. Currently, I'm taking medicines for hand tremor Betacap TR 40, Benfomet plus and Lonazep 0.25 which is suggested by neurologist. Please advise.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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You are just afraid of people and their judgments of you. This is closely related to the fear of public speaking, which everyone has, including me. But you will not notice it because we use the fear t prepare and deliver the talk properly. You can imagine that nobody is there and just speak naturally. You are obviously good but have a low self-confidence and esteem. It is all about trusting people. Do you know why you do not trust people? Have you had a bad experience? If not, you will still need to meet people and live with them. The ultimate test of a personality is in the social context. The greater test is when we meet with the opposite sex. And the final test is when we have to bed and board with a member of the opposite sex in marriage. If you wait for that time to resolve it, it might be too late and traumatizing. Even if you are afraid of people, face your fear and see what happens. They are certainly not going to kill you. So what is the worst that can happen? Really nothing but it will feel great to have friends and lots of companions in life. We are after all social animals, gregarious by nature and need each other. So don?t handicap yourself on this front. Attend a personality development class, personal grooming class, public speaking class, and conversation classes. It will help to do a lot of this with a close friend, if you have one. If not, find one. We are into relationships all the time. It is near impossible to live without people. All research has shown that living with someone gives us good health and long life too. 

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