I am 31 years old. I don't like people I don't want to talk anybody. I rarely laugh and if I do I think its only to show people. I always fight with my husband in minor things I sometimes say lies and have fight with my husband. I often want to do suicide. Please tell me what to do?

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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You sound like a depressed person from anger turned inwards. Your withdrawal from people is quite typical of a person who is depressed. Suicide is no solution and is a cowardly act. Like is very precious and must be looked after very well. You may be suffering from the rejection issue and sometimes, out of frustration, you will reject yourself in the form of suicide. When depressed suicide will look like an option but believe me it is not. You get only one chance in this life and you must make the most of it. If you think that you cannot do anything with the anger (which incidentally is not true, but you believe so), then you will tend to turn the anger inwards toward yourself and blame yourself, and start to beat yourself black and blue. Anger, being energy, and when turned around will stifle your natural energy to make you feel lethargic and listless. Can you identify with the anger? If so, express it to someone, preferably to a counselor. Once this anger comes out, it will seem like a heavy weight has been lifted off of your back and your mood will return to normal. Don?t submit to it. If you find the fight is too much, then go for counseling first and then for medication. The combination is ideal to combat this condition. This is the only condition were you are required to literally do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, make you too lazy to even think etc. So when I suggested doing the opposite, you will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, and wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch a lot of sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. I hope you can find someone to love and be loved too, if you are not already married. Whatever happens please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Do not live with lies because you will feel guilty and the depression will continue to plague you. Face the truth, always. 

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