Hello Sir/Mam, I am 29 years old and married since 3 years. My husband is a drug addict and we have not had full sex till now. He is not financially stable as well. I do not force him at all for anything and I try my level best to provide him my full support. His mood swings frequently and at times he abuses for what I have not done. I try to be happy and all the time I am smiling at home but this feeling has started eating me now. I feel restless, I feel incomplete. In 3 years I have got nothing I mean no financial, emotional, Physical or moral support. Now I am worried about my health as I know from Outside I am strong but form inside I am broken. I need someone to understand me. Please help me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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Yes, you are right that from inside you could be ruining yourself. You have to take some action and move heaven and earth to get him out of his habit or face divorce. This may sound harsh but this is called tough love. You will be encouraging the addiction and his gradual wasting away of his life. You have to be firm with him. If you continue in this relationship without acting on it, you will be responsible for the negative outcome that is guaranteed. In fact, you are considered a co-dependent and will have some issues related to his addiction as an enabler. He needs to be admitted to an institution for at least six months and resolve his addiction. You can get his parents involved if he does not listen to you. As you admit there is nothing in this marriage for you, and if you continue to accept this lifestyle you could become depressed and may suffer a breakdown. Act fast and effectively. 

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