Am a love failure boy. She left me 3 months ago. She make me cry many times but still my heart wants her. I can't forget her. Am unable to concentrate on my studies. Everyday I experiencing lot of too much pain. please doctor. Save me and give me correct guidance. I can't sleep well. And lot of pain inside of my heart. Its really unable to describe my pain in words. Pls Dr. give me appropriate answer.

Dr. Armaan PandeyPsychiatrist10yrs exp

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A heart-break or rejection in a relationship is processed by our brain in the same way as physical pain. So the pain you are feeling is very natural and very normal. Your mind will take time to come out of it. Like any other wound, emotional wounds also take time to heal. On an average, a time of 6 months is required for the grief to reduce. Of course you can make this process faster or slower. If you want to come out of this, then first thing you need to realize is that you need your love and attention right now. You have to treat yourself as the most valuable person in the world. You need to figure out ways to please and pamper yourself, respect yourself and love yourself. Giving a small treat like a new shirt or a hairstyle will boost your self-esteem. Meeting old friends and new people will work wonders. On the other hand, if you want to delay this process then you will remain in the self- pity mode. You will keep thinking that you are a victim and you are the most deprived person in the world. You will keep blaming someone or something for your misery. You will keep calling yourself a failure. The fact is, most relationships in your age'fail' people don't fail. You are not the only one. Lastly and most importantly, seek professional help because you have constant low mood, suicidal thoughts, lack of sleep, sadness, etc. Please go to a psychiatrist as soon as possible. This could be depression. It will not let you come out of this phase unless you take treatment. 

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