Hi, my boyfriend break up with me 2 weeks later. We were in relationship for 3 months. And in this 3 months we met once. That was our first date. He even lip lock and huggged me on first date. I don't wanted to do it but he was so much hurry for those things. Reason for break up first he told lets be happy in happiness of parents. Then he told after 2-3 days he was not happy with me. I truly loved and trusted him alot. I can't understand what he was doing with me and what he wanted actually. Because after break up also he told me wants to be my best friend for life. He dint even removed me still from social networking sites i.es, Facebook and watsapp. He was caring and understanding alot that made me loved him seriously and truly. I can't forget him anyhow now. Also I miss him alot but I can't tell him whats there actually in my mind. It's like I can't concentrate anywhere he's always on my mind. After break up he also txt me 2-3 times but I dint replied him. But still I can't understand y he has kept me on social networking sites if he don't love me. Even I told him I don't want to b his friend now. Please help me. I'M totally in depression.Please tell sir.

Ms. Sadhana MishraPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi, you are feeling betrayed, hurt, angry and sad over how your boyfriend has distanced himself from you. You are going through a difficult phase in terms of your emotions and maybe hoping he might come back to you again and hence cognitively you are trying to understand why he hasn't disconnected with you over the social network sites. He may have his own reasons to justify his decision and what he does is not in your control. What you can do is understand and get in touch with what's happening to you. Are you happy in this state? what would you like to do now? do you see any future with this guy who is finding it hard to commit and stay in the relationship? how does it matter whether he hasn't deleted your contact from those sites? it's also important to understand that usually boys and girls are in an exploratory phase around this age trying to understand how and with whom they are able to relate, and in this process there are heartaches for some. You have displayed a huge amount of courage by not replying back to his messages and it shows you value yourself, which is really good. This time is very critical for you in terms of your career or future goals, so start thinking about your goals and make efforts to work towards them. You can also block him from your networks if it gives you some amount of relief/freedom and also allow yourself to feel your pain. Gradually you will be out of it and looking life in the face with renewed zeal. So take care of yourself and give yourself your attention. 

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