I think I have a weak nervous system .I get excited and depressed easily. For example if someone has done said or done something wrong to me .I start thinking over it to the point my mind gets really heavy and then I am not able to think. When I was young I used to pee in the bed unlike my peers. For which I took shilajit on a local doctor recommendation. Please help me with medicines or anything to come over it.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi lybrate-user, its not about weak nervous system. You have social anxiety. Try to identify the things you do in social situations to feel safer (and make a list). Then try to reduce engaging in some of these behaviours when facing feared situations. Few people think of worrying as self-programming, but it is. Intense worry about upcoming social situations repeatedly links anxiety to the events. No wonder when you actually go into the social situation itself you feel anxious you've programmed yourself to feel this way. You can start to reverse this trend by taking time to think about the future gathering whilst relaxed – maybe in a warm bath or in a comfortable chair. Imagine seeing yourself looking relaxed and confident. Do this repeatedly so that your body and mind forge a new and better automatic association to these times. Social phobia has us worrying what other people think of us, so instead focus on other people. Cultivate curiosity. Ask people open questions which require more than just a "yes" or "no" answer. Make a point of remembering what they tell you and referring back to it later to demonstrate you were interested enough to take it in. Again, this forces your focus of attention from inward to outward. It's also nice for other people, which means you might accidentally make more friends as a 'by-product' of this strategy. Now, overcoming social phobia is as much about stopping doing stuff as it is about doing new things, so. TIP: People with social anxiety tend to focus on themselves during social situations, which tends to make them feel even more anxious. Its best to consult a psychologist for treatment of social phobia. You can consult with me too. All the best. 

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