I was in a relationship with a girl from 2009, we love each other a lot but she got married in 2015 with other guy as her parents wish, at that time I'm helpless, but she made a promise that she will be contact with me as a friend, I'm very happy at least she is staying in my life as a friend, after her marriage she in contact with me as usual, we are maintain a genuine friendship but it lasts only for few days, later she reduced talking with me I asked her many times, she used to tell me there is no time and busy all the time and sometimes she used to tell me her married life is not so good there is no proper understanding between them, from last 6-8 months she not even giving a single reply to my messages even she is in online It was hurting me lot the way she ignoring me I love her a lot and she is my best friend all the time, I never misbehaved with her I'm maintaining a genuine friendship with her but I don't know why she ignoring me, she knows I love her lot and she knows if she ignore me it hurts me a lot, she don't have at least a single minute to reply a single message from past 6-8 months the way she ignoring me it was hurting me a lot I asked her many times from day 1 of her marriage if your not interested talking to me just tell I never contact you but she used to tell me no I was little busy that's why I'm not replying to me, but from past 6 -8 months there is no single reply from her but with a hope I'm still messing her and I don't know why can't I stop loving her even she is ignoring me at last I'm very depressed and hurted deep inside.

Mr. Rajan PPsychologist26yrs exp

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Relax dear Lybrate user. I can understand how painful it is to lose a loved one. But we have to bear with things beyond our control. If one really loves a person, one has to accept that person's likes, dislikes, good or bad things too. In your case, your girlfriend may be having a situation that threatens her married life because of relating to you. Or she may be really involved in her family life and in a position to forget you. Whatever it is, she wants to keep you at a distance, at least for the time being. She will be contacting you if her family life ends up. Stop messaging her at once. She might be a part of your life, not your whole life. The vast universe is waiting for you with stretched out hands. Give a new birth to yourself. Restart. Who knows, you may have a better partner than the la(o)st one. 

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Ms. ParveenPsychologist15yrs exp

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Hi lybrate-user, Try to living in present life and enjoy. Now in front you, your career. Try to concentrate on it. She was your good friend. Now she is a wife of somebody else. Now, Don't try to reach out to him. Let her enjoy her married life. Scarify is a part of life. So enjoy your life. Don't be depress. And don't try to call her or message her. Also not accept her that she will call you. Think if you on that place what do you do then. So Relax. Take a deep breath. And smile.))  

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Dr. Jagadeesan M.S.Psychiatrist13yrs exp

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Friendship is mutual and not one sided, her definitions of friendship might have changed and married lady has commitments too. So if she has chosen to be off the relationship, forget her and move ahead in your life rather than brooding about her and getting depressed. All the best 

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