I am in a medical college n I like my teacher there. He is a MD doctor. I like him from d first day I saw him n now m in 3 rd year I still feel same for him. But he z of 47 & married too. He z having kids too. I know I can never have a future with him. But I can't stop thinking of him. When I wake up in morning d first thing come in my mind is my teacher .when I go to bed I think of him before sleeping. I can't stop myself thinking of him all d day. I luv him so much. But for him m his student only. I am lacking my studies too bcz of it. I feel like I'll go in severe depression on leaving my college because I won't be able to c him. Even in my holidays when I don't c him for a long time I go to him for any illness n to medicine just to c him. I don't know how to get rid of this attachment. Three years have gone but I feel same love for him. But I want to get over it now. please suggest.

Ms. Upasana Chaddha VijPsychologist7yrs exp

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Hello lybrate-user I understand what you are going through. There are times in our life when even though we know what our heart desires can not be true but we keep wishing for it to come true. I understand that you have strong feelings for your teacher and I also understand by your query that you are aware that these feelings will not be reciprocated and neither there is a future nor you are expecting one practically. Even though you have feelings for your professor you knoe that things can not eork out, 1. Becos he is married, amd it is not right to cheat 2. Ethically a student - teacher romantic involvement is not healthy. Your problem is that you can not distract yourself frm the teacher, which is even affecting your studies. In order to get over it, first thi gs first, it is very common to admire, be infatuated towards a teacher, as they are our role models, confident, passionate about their subject, and They are supportive, so its common to admire them, look upto them and feel attracted towards them. What you could do is 1. Avoid one on one interaction with him. 2. Occupy your self with some project, club, activity that can keep you pccupied such that you think less about him. 3. Talk to someone about it, someone whom you can trust, contact your college counsellor or anyone else who can support you in keeping your mind away frm the teacher. 4. Remind yourself, that no matter ehat this is a crush tht we would eventually fade away.  

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