For e.g.I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to may self all that time may help me.

Question

It is natural to feel low and miss the person you have lost. However if it is interfering with your sleep, studies or general well being, or if you feel suicidal, you need to consult a psychiatrist. It is common to feel low, cry, feel like you are alone, or lose your self confidence. Usually time is the best healer. However if things are too difficult to handle you should talk to a psychiatrist or counselor. Confide in someone close to you, who will support you in this difficult time. Don't cut off from friends or family, even if you feel like you want to be alone.

Akshata Bhat · Accepted Answer

It is natural to feel low and miss the person you have lost. However if it is interfering with your sleep, studies or general well being, or if you feel suicidal, you need to consult a psychiatrist. It is common to feel low, cry, feel like you are alone, or lose your self confidence. Usually time is the best healer. However if things are too difficult to handle you should talk to a psychiatrist or counselor. Confide in someone close to you, who will support you in this difficult time. Don't cut off from friends or family, even if you feel like you want to be alone.

Rachna Mishra · Answer

Hello Rajesh...........

Nothing dies. Death is transformation. You see, its a change. Whole organism exists but not the way as before. The thought of loss generates stress. When I think, I lost something, its painful. Don't create barriers for tears. But don't get lost in pain. Feel their transition. They have moved into the unborn state. Nothing becomes ?not? existing. They have been silenced. Sounds are no more. You don't see or hear them. When you have lot of thoughts about them, close your eyes, meditate, breath, relax and be in that silence. Distractions won't work.Distracting ourselves from thoughts, memories or feelings is troublesome. In that pursuit, more of same are pushed into consciousness. Instead of peace, wholeness is agitated. We run in all directions and get nowhere.

The best way to overcome the pain is to give it time and create a logical philosophy that can support your mind to cope with the pain and sorrow. Be it losing a close person by the death or by losing a relationship. Just to help you , I am providing you with one philosophy-?what ever has come in existence, has to come to an end. By death or by separation. Nothing in this world is for ever. ?

The thumb rule is to keep yourself occupied as much as you can. You must find meaningful engagement.
While facing an emotional trauma, TRY never to be lonely. Spend as much time as you can in good company.
Read a lot of good books that can create a philosophical and logical background to let your mind soothe the emotional trauma
Learn to medicate or get engaged in spiritual or religious activities
Do some social work BELIEVE me nothing works better than sharing the pain of others to reduce your own pain.
If the trauma is still there even after 3 months , never hesitate to take professional help.
Happy living

Thank You 
 All the Best