I am a ortho doctor First year. I want to become a great surgeon. I always gave and infact giving first importance to my work was trying from past 6 - 7 months to create my good image among my seniors and consultants. But I do not know why I always failed. Infact I use to get trapped. Or let it be politics of dept. But every time I am in worst image. manner times I came to know how a politics was created on my back and my image was worsened. Living with all these fr 6 months. yesterday may be out of stress. I manhandled on one of the pt. in ward. I slapped him in ward when he denied that I havent changed his slab. Although I did it in morning but. After the incident a scene was created. Today I have got suspension letter fr few days and after that I will be posted in mortuary till further notice. I am feeling so much depressed. I can not share all this with any of my parents who always think that im doing great surgeries in operation theatre and all. please help me out. I want to shine. But I am so much down. Not even in normal image.

Ms. Jagriti SharmaPsychologist9yrs exp

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Hello Lybrate User Well what all is happening or rather what all has happened is not favorable, but you have to still keep patience till further notice is being given to you. Moreover, it is not just your college or community that you belong to, you will find people cribbing and talking out about you or the other person and that is another trait of humans. So whatever you have been experiencing is not a good feeling but when you slapped a patient, that was also not acceptable on your part. Displacing your emotions onto somebody else is a very easy task, but to hold them and sort it out is slightly difficult. And I understand that you have been trying to manage things since last 6 months but somehow it is not working out and situation is getting vulnerable. I would suggest you that for right now apologize from your teachers, Hods first. Then whatever punishment they have for you, be it suspension or posting in mortuary, accept that, considering that what you did with the patient. And while being posted in Mortuary department you do not have to associate whatever has been happening with you since last 6 months (politics as you said). Keep both things separate. Moreover, try and analyze what has been going wrong on your part that nobody is there to help you out and everyone is trying to create a bad image of yours in front of others? This is a task and you have to figure it out on your own and write back. And there are times when there is no body around to support you and give you a soft corner or atleast even understand what feeling you are going through. At those moments, you have to become strong and create a stronger boundary around your hurt Ego so that it gets comfort at least from you. This Ego is the healthy one which I have mentioned here. For few days if you have received this suspension letter, just be patient and relax yourself. Things will definitely get better. If it is about your adjustment patterns and communication problems with other, you have to smartly work on it, so that you do not have to move much from your comfort zone of personality and others may averagely take your side. You also mentioned that you want to become great surgeon and for which you give importance to your work first. Sometimes you may have to give importance to your seniors and consultants also, along with the work. And that is how you will be working smartly with them. Start giving them respect and time, also because they know better than what you know since you are in your first year of Ortho. Understand their psyche and try to understand what they expect from you. And that is how you will be able to balance things in your life. It is not very difficult but you have to create an effort from your side. And You will definitely succeed. Just calm yourself down and relax. I hope this may help you out, if you have further queries, please share and write back. Regards.  

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