I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time please help me.

Question

What is making you keep to yourself? Indeed losing someone close is a very unfortunate event. Death is ultimately going to come but nothing can prepare you for someone's death. It is neccessary that you allow yourself to grieve the loss. However after losing one person we shut other people out with fear of losing them. You may have so many people who are dear to you and yet live away somewhere, or you may not be spending enough time with while they are around. You assume that they are fine and alive because you think about them through your memories. Same way, the close person you lost can still be kept alive through your memories, by talking about him/her. More than that you need to interact with other people close to you so that you will not feel regretful like right now that you could soend more time with them after they are gone. Also your close ones maybe very sad to see you not spending time with them. Even they may have fear of losing you. While we are alive, we can make sure we are there for each other. Since you messaged for help, it is an indication that you are done with grieving and ready to get out of it. Another thing that happens is when they lose a close person they feel if they move on it will be wrong, that they did not love the person enough. This guilt is not needed because once a person passes away that person moves on from this life, so their loved ones have to move on as well, and remember them in their heart.

Sampada Kathuria · Accepted Answer

What is making you keep to yourself? Indeed losing someone close is a very unfortunate event. Death is ultimately going to come but nothing can prepare you for someone's death. It is neccessary that you allow yourself to grieve the loss. However after losing one person we shut other people out with fear of losing them. You may have so many people who are dear to you and yet live away somewhere, or you may not be spending enough time with while they are around. You assume that they are fine and alive because you think about them through your memories. Same way, the close person you lost can still be kept alive through your memories, by talking about him/her. More than that you need to interact with other people close to you so that you will not feel regretful like right now that you could soend more time with them after they are gone. Also your close ones maybe very sad to see you not spending time with them. Even they may have fear of losing you. While we are alive, we can make sure we are there for each other. Since you messaged for help, it is an indication that you are done with grieving and ready to get out of it. Another thing that happens is when they lose a close person they feel if they move on it will be wrong, that they did not love the person enough. This guilt is not needed because once a person passes away that person moves on from this life, so their loved ones have to move on as well, and remember them in their heart.