I am struggling from some emotional trauma I think why he is talking to other girls and guys when I am her friend I think y my bf talks to other people when I am here why my sister talks to her friends I am here for her all the time and I even support her I even feel same feeling for everyone whom is attach to me can you help me this.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I think that you think that you own your friends and therefore do not want to share them with others. There is some insecurity around trusting your friends to remain faithful to you. This is all stemming from your own problem and you will need to do some work around that with a counselor. You must be able to give your close friends space to interact with others and yet not feel insecure. You may also have weak ego-boundaries that makes you feel too attached with others: attachment is based on insecurity. Whereas bonding is based on security and such a person can tolerate and feel ok when your friend is with others too. You need to learn some socializing skills, build self-confidence etc. You can do a personality development course and build up a confident self. Emotions play a very important part too and so you must seek professional help to learn about emotions and how to handle them.  

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