I am 27, unmarried, single. My career is paused, despite being a graduate from Delhi University and postgraduate from SNDT University, Mumbai and with one job experience. But Unable to do anything concrete till date along with that back to back 2 times breakup after almost reaching to discussions of marriage. I don't have a friend circle. I am very lonely because I look for true souls but everybody uses me. Again, I am also passionate about singing but in that field too, I am unable to achieve opportunities and any success. Cherry on the top I am suffering from PCOD, THYROID and VITAMIN D3 deficiency. Now the summary is I am completely crushed and broken and want to commit suicide. I feel I am under severe depression and if the situation remains so I feel I won't fear to finish my life someday sooner.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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You must never equate your life to issues that can be resolved. If there is no solution, I understand though I will never support suicide. I strongly suspect that you suffer from a rejection issue and need some professional help. This rejection is usually founded in your family of origin, and is somewhat manifest in some descriptions you have given already. This is not to find fault in your parents: they may have done a lot of things with good intentions but may have inadvertently set up rejection. If you go way back, and see if there was any rejection prenatally or postnatally (again all this with intention or without), the child will pick up the sensation or feel like she is not wanted or even rejected. As you can see, I am presuming all this. You will have to give it substance, if you so have the substance. Without reaching to any conclusions, just indulge in this thought to see if there is any semblance of truth to explore it further. Your parents may throw light on this but don?t share too much of what I saying until it has been verified. Also find out, if there was an abortion or miscarriage before or after you were born. Whether you were wanted by both parents at birth. Whether they expected a male child and were disappointed that you were a girl. How long were you breast-fed by mom etc? These will all throw some light on my proposal of rejection, if there is any truth. Then equipped with this information you can seek help. I am certain that you setup rejection and feel so desperate. Your life is very precious and you must do everything to preserve it. We are social animals, gregarious by nature and need each other to live and survive. There is no way that you can leave this issue just like that. You must meet with a counselor and address your issues. I recommend that you do a personality development course. You should join small groups to begin with and then associate with larger crowds. You may want to improve certain aspects of your personality to face people. So do attend courses that will give you new skills that will help you gain confidence to meet with people. Public speaking, for example, is a common fear of most people: it is worth attending a course in elocution and joining the Toastmasters Club. You must also do regular exercise, eat well and sleep well to have a strong constitution, always. Check how the family has probably influenced your social fears and sort that out too with the counselor.  

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