I have addicted of smoking (2-4 daily). I want to leave this? What I do for it. And also I have addicted about sex. Give suggestion please

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It is a good thing that you want to get rid of smoking but it is not easy because there is a lot of conditioning associated with it and these can be spread over the whole day and night!!! When you decide, it must be done immediately and abruptly. Waiting another day will jeopardize the decision. Since you want to do it I recommend that you seek the help of a counselor and do it with support, if the addiction is too much. You need to identify with why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all, announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here?s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world ? you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. To help process all of the above and to get support, go for counseling and persevere with it until you are completely over it. Regarding addiction to sex, you need to be more specific. Any way it is bound to have the obsession about sex a lot of the day and that will feed into the compulsion to act on it. If it is masturbation that you are addicted to it has some other ramifications and will affect your love life later. If it is addiction to sexual contact with women, then that has to be taken into consideration especially when you will need to withdraw from female company until you have resolve the issue. You will need to meet a sexologist and a counselor to work on the drive and the emotions attached to the addiction. You need to start regular exercise, eat well and sleep well. There is a need to be fruitfully occupied and when in social situations to keep your mind occupied on matters other than sex. You will need to get a sex education to understand and value and respect sex with the total five dimensions that it has: the physical, emotional, intellectual, social and even spiritual aspects. In the counseling you will need to understand women and not make them into sex objects. It is a good thing that you want to get rid of smoking but it is not easy because there is a lot of conditioning associated with it and these can be spread over the whole day and night!!! When you decide, it must be done immediately and abruptly. Waiting another day will jeopardize the decision. Since you want to do it I recommend that you seek the help of a counselor and do it with support, if the addiction is too much. You need to identify with why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all, announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here?s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world ? you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. To help process all of the above and to get support, go for counseling and persevere with it until you are completely over it. You will need to work on the emotions around women and see if there is any basis for childhood experiences that may be contributing to the addiction. The fixation to sex may be a substitute for love and you may be mixing the two up and replacing one for the other, and will never feel completely satiated. There could be a rigid value system, and script issue that must looked into. You will be taught the true meaning of love too.

Saul Pereira · Accepted Answer

It is a good thing that you want to get rid of smoking but it is not easy because there is a lot of conditioning associated with it and these can be spread over the whole day and night!!! When you decide, it must be done immediately and abruptly. Waiting another day will jeopardize the decision. Since you want to do it I recommend that you seek the help of a counselor and do it with support, if the addiction is too much. You need to identify with why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all, announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here?s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world ? you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. To help process all of the above and to get support, go for counseling and persevere with it until you are completely over it. Regarding addiction to sex, you need to be more specific. Any way it is bound to have the obsession about sex a lot of the day and that will feed into the compulsion to act on it. If it is masturbation that you are addicted to it has some other ramifications and will affect your love life later. If it is addiction to sexual contact with women, then that has to be taken into consideration especially when you will need to withdraw from female company until you have resolve the issue. You will need to meet a sexologist and a counselor to work on the drive and the emotions attached to the addiction. You need to start regular exercise, eat well and sleep well. There is a need to be fruitfully occupied and when in social situations to keep your mind occupied on matters other than sex. You will need to get a sex education to understand and value and respect sex with the total five dimensions that it has: the physical, emotional, intellectual, social and even spiritual aspects. In the counseling you will need to understand women and not make them into sex objects. It is a good thing that you want to get rid of smoking but it is not easy because there is a lot of conditioning associated with it and these can be spread over the whole day and night!!! When you decide, it must be done immediately and abruptly. Waiting another day will jeopardize the decision. Since you want to do it I recommend that you seek the help of a counselor and do it with support, if the addiction is too much. You need to identify with why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all, announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here?s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world ? you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. To help process all of the above and to get support, go for counseling and persevere with it until you are completely over it. You will need to work on the emotions around women and see if there is any basis for childhood experiences that may be contributing to the addiction. The fixation to sex may be a substitute for love and you may be mixing the two up and replacing one for the other, and will never feel completely satiated. There could be a rigid value system, and script issue that must looked into. You will be taught the true meaning of love too.