We r married from last 4 months. It's an arrange marriage. But science last 2 months my husband getting depressed. He always telling me that he do not like me. But he needs me at a time. He trying to recover but he can't.doctor gave him nexito 10 and clonazepam. 5 .but no improvement. Negative thoughts comes sometime. please help.

Mr. Saul PereiraPsychologist51yrs exp

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I think his depression needs a lot of attention but with medication and therapy. This may be affecting his relationship with you because he may not be able to handle the pressures and expectations of the marriage. Let him meet with a relationship counselor and help him with the marriage. His primary work will involve a therapist and the doctor. Please have him visit these professionals along with his parents. In the meantime please make him do the following sincerely because he could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do yoga meditation exercises, spend time in nature or gardening, etc. I suggest he does the opposite of what this depression makes him feel like doing (actually, not doing): he will need to fight this condition. He must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on tv or comedies and cheer himself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose himself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in his life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If he did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in god to alleviate his sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help but you as a wife can be a great support for without nagging. Use his own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, he needs to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get him out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate him, all the hard word must come from him, and his cooperation with that person is very critical for his success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what he has. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.  

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