My friend (a paediatrician) a self made girl who is what she she is on her own (Not a very happy childhood and not emotionally att with family) was emotionally involved with her boyfriend, He was very caring supportive and would have been an ideal life partner. However she left him as he did not improve on his excessive drinking habits, while he moved on in life but he too is unhappy in his marriage. My friend is not able to forget him, and is mentally disturbed. She can not get back to him as he has not given up on his drinks. So crux is she is not able to get over him, nor is she able to accept him back into her life due to his drinking addictions. Now its even affecting her present as she is not able to connect emotionally and mentally with any other guy... And so is not able to go ahead with her marriage proposals. She sees him in everyone she tries to get close with and compares him and rejects him if any of his quality is not there. She fears that even if she marries she may start comparing her spouse in all aspects, and may affect her married life. She is totally left feeling lonely, frustrated and mentally disturbed all the time. She wants to erase him. She is ready for psychiatric /medical help only if it can get her to forget him, reboot her and bring the zing back in her life.