I am suffering from depression as I have been into a relationship for 5 years and broke up with that guy because of which I am unable to concentrate on my studies and carrier.

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Loosing a loved one, you go through grief. The only thing is for sure that in time you will heal. Keeping busy with either work or other activities helps time go faster. It's a very painful process you just have to trust , you will be stronger in the end. Surround yourself with good friends or family. Try your best to take care of yourself and know that everyone goes through this at least once in a lifetime. It's the most pain I think a human can experience but it is necessary for us to grow. You are not alone. it will get better.

Vaishali Rana · Accepted Answer

Loosing a loved one, you go through grief. The only thing is for sure that in time you will heal. Keeping busy with either work or other activities helps time go faster. It's a very painful process you just have to trust , you will be stronger in the end. Surround yourself with good friends or family. Try your best to take care of yourself and know that everyone goes through this at least once in a lifetime. It's the most pain I think a human can experience but it is necessary for us to grow. You are not alone. it will get better.

Akshata Bhat · Answer

The end of a relationship often feels like the end of the world. After all the time and energy you have invested in it, it is very painful when it gets over. Keep in mind that life is full of ups and downs; nothing is permanent. The pain you feel today will go away with time. Give yourself time to heal. Give time, time. In the meanwhile don't isolate yourself from your friends and family. Confide in someone you are comfortable with. Make a list of life goals, and plan how to achieve them. Relationships are an important part of your life, but they are not everything. Spend time with those close to you, indulge in some enjoyable activities. Keep yourself busy. Slowly you will see that there is a lot to life.
However if you are feeling suicidal, consult a psychiatrist immediately. Don't wait to feel worse.

Haridas .K · Answer

Hello lybrate-user, went through your story. Lot of your thoughts and feelings are invested in a relationship. So after a breakup, you are likely to have a plethora of thoughts and feelings like, guilt, shame, anger, sadness, a sense of loss or abandonment. So you need to consult psychiatrist or clinical psychologist or psychiatric social worker to deal with this issue and resolve the issue. Please don't feel shy or ashamed. You have not commuted any crime.

Deepti Bhandari · Answer

Dear lybrate-user,
Break ups are always difficult. But each time we learn a new lesson and become strong. Your description is very short and without much details (which I can understand as question is displayed publicly) to help you in exact manner. But definitely there are some tips you can use for effective study and career. 1. Identify your area of interest where you want to persue your career n further vocation specific studies if there are any in the respective field. Though it requires in depth analysis from a Psychologist, still you can identify it with asking yourself a question - what is it that I love doing 24 hrs 7 days without getting bored? ; what is it I can do, even if I am told to do that work in middle of night also?
These questions will help you analyse yourself. 2. For increasing concentration -
a. Mix pulses (dal of all sizes, Chana, rajma) of all sizes from smallest to biggest. Put them in a bowl where picking up is easy. Guess in what time you will be able to pick each set of pulses and separate them starting from largest size pulse to smallest one. Note that at least 4-5 variety of sizes shd be there. Set the timer on phone and start it. Notice the time difference if any in completing the task. This is a wonderful task to increase concentration. B. Start meditation with making it a priority. Include it in your daily schedule. Start with concentrating on the spot between eyebrows, keeping your focus there and taking deep breaths. The breaths style - Inhale with count of 4-Hold for 2 seconds-Exhale with count of 8. Inhale through nose - Exhale with mouth like a gush of wind by pursing your lips as if blowing whistle. Continue for at least 15-20 mins. If thought/feeling comes tell it -" I will concentrate on you after meditation" Maintain the breathing pace. Continue till timer of 20 mins buzz off. C. . I will help you to de stress yourself. D. Buy therapeutic grade essential oil - Lavendar and Rosemary. Inhale as much as you can. E. Sacred Rose exercise - Imagine a White Rose. Close eyes and mentally put the rose on the left feet. Pray to rose to encircle you from toe to head. Also pray to rose to absorb all the energy in your physical and astral aura especially pertaining to your ex - boyfriend. When the rose it above your head. Notice the color change in the rose. Ask White Light to transform the Rose in Energy of Love and blend it in universe. If the symptoms continue please see a psychologist. If you hv doubts for above mentioned exercises please contact me.

Surbhi Agrawal · Answer

First of all I'd like to tell you that try to accept the change in life. Accept that past is past and you have to move on. You have to convert the pain, stress and frustration into positive things. Try to find motivation to move up in all what happened to you after break up.
It's common to have aggravated depressive and anxiety symptoms after break up but in most individuals these don't last more than 6 months. These symptoms of adjustment disorder usually remit by own. The poor memory, stress and anger are due to lack of focus. To come out of these symptoms stay outdoors as much as possible. This will help you to distract yourself from past. Try to find a new hobby and if possible learn it or complete it. Reading, completing a new course, gym etc are options. Try to find interests in these things.
If symptoms are severe and persist then visit a psychiatrist for help. Medicines like SSRIs can help to reduce the depression. Fluoxetine or Escitalopram can be used for short time and will help you to come out of depression. These are safe medicines and can be used without any worries.