I am in love with a boy. We are together since 5 year. I informed my parents about this boy that I love this boy and I wanted to marry him. My parents are not happy with this relationship. I thing is they have received one letter in that someone unknown person has written he is not a good guy. Please keep your girl stay away from him. But in 5 year of relationship I didn't find out anything negative about him. He is too honest. One more thing I want to share is he has drunk 2/3 times and said bad words to me and shouted at me. I forgot it because I know its his love nothing else. The thing is I had a past. And I just move on and I share everything to him that I was in relationship. I didn't hide anything to him.because I truly love him and I want to spend my whole life with him. About 7 month before I appeared for an interview in my ex office where his office. I never mix my professional life and personal life. But I didn't inform my bf about this I thought he gets angry on me and wouldn't allow me for an interview and it is such a good company so I don't want to loss chance. I told him that I am going for an interview in this company and he always sees my ex updates so he find out that I am going in same company where he is working. I even informed this in my home that I am going for an interview where my ex is working because I have no bad feeling for him. But after thinking a lot although I am selected I said know because I don't want my relationship mess up. On that day in night he called me and ask what you r hiding with me? I said everything and he said bad words to me. Said that there is no difference between you and character less girl. Again I forgot and say sorry to him. Now thing is I forgot everything and I want to marry him. I am trying to convince my parents. because I know I am not with him that is why he is upset once I will with him he will not do such a thing. But after trying 3/4 times my parents are not happy and he is asking for court marriage which I don't want because I don't want to hurt my parents. I am trying to convince my parents but I am not able to convince them so he is not talking with me properly. I am too much in depression. I can't tell this to anyone. Please let me know what should I do. Please.
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Things will change much after marriage: that is, the both of you will change. If you think that that is a welcome change, then you could go ahead. But do not be deceived: some of these changes will not be welcome at all, and it is difficult to predict them. You only think you know the person but he will turn out to be sometimes quite shocking. Please think about all matters prudently before taking the plunge. Listen to what others say and weigh it well. When we are in love, we are to a certain extent blind and will not be able to or willing to see the obvious. It seems like you have some discomfort already about telling him everything you do. This is itself not a good sign. Where there is true love, there is a lot of trust. What he does when he is upset is a good sign of what to expect after marriage: it is an indicator. If it is not good, don't be in a hurry. Now is the time to ask him all the pertinent questions and clear all your doubts openly. If you are afraid to ask then there is something wrong. If he drinks and misbehaves, that is of concern too. Just because you love him, you may not be too perturbed but that is exactly what you need to be careful about. Marriage is a serious business and it is meant for life. So put in a lot of time and attention to it before you make the final call. I like that you don't want to offend your parents and so always keep them in the loop. If you do not like what you see, even if you are in love with him, do not hesitate to make your decision if it is the right one.
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Every human is the best judge of himself/herself so think deeply without being biased .you have to consider 1 more thing whether the ways he talks sometimes is his nature you should consider all this points before marriage and court marriage must be the last option first try to convince your parents, discuss every thing with your parents parents are the real well wisher ,you love someone its not wrong love is very pure feeling so don't hesitate to discuss with them you can also take help of counsellor regarding thid if you need my help you can contact me.
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It s very simple, you are blinded by love to this emotionally unstable fellow. Your parents r right, and you should thank the guy who has informed your parents. If you marry this fellow, you might regret for life. Do not be blinded by love, and pray sanity prevails upon your mind. After marriage this fellow will be uncotrollable. Suspicoiusness and possesseivness by him is not love, but his low self esteem, paranoia and unstale emotions. You will not realize this now, be careful. All the best.
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