Hey, I feel low and depressed all the time. There is a lot of trouble in my marriage. I have a small baby as well. My career is not taking off. Even though my husband is supportive, he is travelling most of the time and I have to stay with my in laws. My husband says that I have misconceptions about his family but I somehow feel thats not the case. Please help.
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You must sit with yoru husband and discus these misconceptions to find out if he is right or you are. If these problems i.e living with yoru in-laws, husband off on trips, having a small baby, career not taking off, and trouble in your marriage is enough of a recipe for depression. Don't you think so? You must meet with a counselor and talk about these problems. If the counselor thinks you should meet with a doctor, you should. In the meantime please do the following sincerely for your depression because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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You are stressed, over-worked, lack husband support - and this is driving you crazy! please take charge of the situation and throw the extra baggage of stress off your head! you need time for yourself. please start by setting priorities in life- kid, career, husband etc. To focus on what is most important, second most important and so on. Am very sure, many little issues will fizzle out as useless things draining your much required energy levels. If you prioritize, you will become confident and will be able to tackle each issue, one by one. Best of luck.
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Hi Lybrate user thanks for sharing your problem. Sometime it happens when we want to express something else and people understand something else. But you have to handle this situation carefully as in long run this situation may effect the relation with your husband in adverse way .everyone is different so their nature, behaviour varies, we cannot change other's behaviour but we can change our approach so that we don't get effected by their behaviour. Don't give much weightage or don't interpret the literal meaning of your inlaws discussion because some times people don't mean what they say. Talk with them share your feelings ,dialogue is most important it can break any type of barrier, I don't know exact age of your child but if he/she is above 3-4 years thenyou can do any job as your inlaws are there so they can take care of your child this is also one of the positive point ,talk with your husband as much as much as possible but don't be in complaining or taunting tone, as we feel positive for others then positivity develops in us also. Take care.
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