I have started to like a girl I met 2 months back, its a kind of love at first sight feeling, I told her everything about what I feel for her and we talk regularly, but she has no feelings for me and shows no interest in talking to me but she talk with me, we meet daily. Due to this I feel depressed and very low from inside, I don't want to talk to anyone don't want to do anything. She has taken total control over my senses. She is the 2nd girl for whom I developed such kind of feeling in last 7 years. The 1st girl left me 4 years back for whom I felt the same. I am not liking this depressed me who do not want to talk to anyone and only want to be alone or with this girl. Kindly help me and suggest what to do to overcome this this situation.

Mrs. Shuchita Dua DulluPsychologist8yrs exp

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Dear lybrate-user, It is definitely tough being in a one sided love affair. From what I understand she has made it very early to you that she isn't interested in you from a love angle. So what are you waiting for ?She continues to talk to you because obviously she is enjoying the attention your are giving her and not because one day her heart will change! Each day is getting difficult for you for you are investing so many emotions into this one sided relationship without getting anything in return and that my friend is leaving you exhausted to the core of feeling depressed and sad. I want you to ask yourself a few questions: 1. Is your worth so less that it is dependant on the acceptance of one girl? 2.what are you getting out of this one sided relationship?- definitely not love and attention. So what exactly being with this girl doing to you? 3. Does she remind you of your first relationship in some way? If yes, do you think it's healthy to be stuck in your past? 4. Before you met her, what made you happy? What did you like doing?- think is that all worth giving up for something you will never get anything from, ever? It's tuff but accept it. She won't have a change of heart if that's what you are waiting and she will move on without regret when she finds something that interests her. It doesn't make her a bad person at all. That's just the way she feels and we need to respect that. While you respect her and give her attention, you need to love and respect yourself too. For no one will love you if you don't love yourself and no one will make you a priority if you are not a priority for yourself. So get up! Go spend time with people who genuinely love you and are happy to see you happy. Make friends, be with your family and let go of this one sided relationship that's causing so much pain and distress. Allow your self to breathe and don't go into a shell. I am sure true love is waiting for you just around the corner. Just get up and look. Take care and believe you are worth a lot more.  

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