Hello Doctors, I am writing behalf of my cousin, 16 years old. He is a very intelligent student but never hard work. He studied in hostel from 6th to 10th grade. He topped 9.2 points in his 10th grade. He pursued his 11th grade as a day scholar. His parents politely asks him to study with concentration but he never did it. In home, he never tried to study stablely not at least fir few hours. By the force of parents, unwillingly he will sit with books but he keeps playing with the things around him while studying and his mind revolves somewhere. He always tries to kill time. He got 224/470. Just 46%. Academically since years, he is scoring 8-9 points. But now he just passed in 11th. We have asked to open up his views. If he is not interested in Maths, we could put in a different subjects as he wish. But he is not open. He is getting irritated if parents asks him to study. He says that he is studying well but his marks are average in class tests. He says the syllabus is not covered. If he opens up that he couldn't understand the classes, we could arrange special tuitions and make him understand. But he won't show interest to go to turions. Now he is telling that we would like to g back to hostel. According to his wish parents made him join in hostel. Parents are really bothered about his behavior. Please suggest how to deal with this kind of a person.
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Hi, as you told that your cousin has already been shifted to the hostel on his own choice, and as you have mentioned that he was doing fine in hostel earlier here I would suggest you to give him some time to adjust again in his hostel life and observe his grades again. If he improves then you should consider that the environment he was getting in his home was not proper for his studies. If still after some more time his grades doesn't improve then you may confront your cousin regarding his studies. In my views the shift of environment hit him negatively in his studies as for four continuous years he was staying away from his parents and adjusted well in hostel. So don't worry, he will do well again. If there is no improvement then you should visit a professional counselor along with your cousin.
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