I am 18 year old and suffering from social phobia and anxiety from 1.5 years and not able to go anywhere like in public places or college and it affected me a lot ,suggest a medicine or way to overcome this phobia.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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You could try some medicine for which you could meet with a doctor. Clearly at your age this is an eye opener because along with the hormonal changes you may be awakening some unresolved childhood issues concerning fear. I believe there may be matters affecting a feeling of rejection. For this I suggest you meet with a counseslor and work it out. You are indeed unique and there is no one who is going to be like you, ever! You have a problem of self-acceptance, and if I may venture to say may be a rejection issue. This latter may have happened due to an actual rejection which you may have experienced very early in your life. The solution to this is a matter of genuine self-acceptance or self-love. I am not talking about narcissism: this is a genuine love of yourself. It is not based on your appearance alone. You must work on developing yourself in five areas: the physical fitness, emotional fitness, intellectual fitness, social fitness and spiritual fitness. I would also suggest you attend a good personality development program, a speech training course (I suggest the Toastmasters Club), a conversation and elocution course, and to do a personal grooming course too. Education is very good to boost self-confidence, and together with that if you develop socializing skills, you will make it big. Meet with a counselor and ask to be trained in handling emotions, and that will just take you places. Read a lot and meet lots of people, even if you feel too conscious: in time you will get out of this backwardness very well. Do physical fitness exercises regularly. Ultimately, if you believe in God, you will know that you are so precious to Him that no one else?s opinion or acceptance is as important as His. Your life will change phenomenally!  

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