Hi i'm having a problem that I give my 100% to people providing them good path show them directions later on they feel good for the temporary process lastly they don't value my existence at all I depretly cry all time I have not got a single good friend whom I can share talk since childhood I'm facing this problem no one likes to be my friend but now i'm adult still help people with good intentions at end they leave me all alone I stay in a single room all alone at pg no body calls or text me i'm the only person who keeps on asking people how are you did you ate but no body cares me to ask only mom dad ask me they only call me 2 times in a day what should I do i'm depressed I can't focus on my studies at all bad things are coming in my mind lust thoughts drowsy feeling all time i'm highly addictive to mobile thus why I can't focus on studies please help me how to increase concentration levels and focus mindsets and why people don't value and respect me being good as well.

Mrs. Aaradhana ReddyPsychologist6yrs exp

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Dear Lybrate user, feeling like that must be very difficult and hurtful. Feelings of loneliness can be very harmful for our physical and psychological health. I really appreciate you being caring and trying to help people even though you constantly felt that the same wasn't really given back to you. Please hold on to that; it's a great quality. Need more in depth information to understand why. Therapy or counselling can help out, in understanding the concern holistically from all perspectives and angles with some social skills training. Therapy can also help out with depression especially cognitive behaviour therapy with all the negative thoughts like you have mentioned, concentration skills and mobile addiction. Please reach out for help, it will help in managing all your concerns. You can reach out to me as well. All the best!  

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Ms. Hema SampathPsychologist18yrs exp

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Why people do not want be friend with you could be due to various reasons. May be, 1. The way you communicate 2. That could think that you are interferring unnecessarily etc. Focus and concentration on studies can be improved as you have mentioned by keeping yourself away from mobile screen time. For more information, I suggest you to consult a psychological counselor.  

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Mr. Saul PereiraPsychologist52yrs exp

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This is a strange paradox: the people you think you are close to are actually ignoring you. But it is not unique to you alone. Those people who suffer from a rejection issue find themselves in this predicament. Find out why these people are neglecting you. Are you doing something to cause this? There must be a way you behave or present yourself that they are choosing to neglect you. Once you have identified that, change that behavior in you. Before you do so ask yourself, do you love yourself first of all? I suspect that there may be a problem of self-acceptance and self-love. If you don?t love yourself, then you may depend on others too much for the love you need. Inevitably, they will reject you or at least neglect you. You could be suffering from the rejection issue from which all these outcomes will be activated. This is how social priorities are normally set: first you love god, then yourself sufficiently, and then others. If you are full of appropriate love, you will attract others? love by default. As easy as that!!! Natural concentration is when the mind can hold a thought for a long time, when thoughts are under our own control. Without concentration the mind goes here, there and everywhere, jumping like a monkey from branch to branch, idea to idea. When there is a natural concentration, we can control our mind and there is peace. This one-pointed concentration on a thought, holding it for as long as we like, gradually collects strength in the mind and in the self. A strong mind is a mind that is peaceful, stable, satisfied and can remain in the deeper meaning of a thought. There is no waste caused by over-thinking, or the high speed of thought: These are the two greatest diseases of the mind these days, which is why there is so much stress and mental breakdown. You can follow these simple rules: Have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress (especially free of OCD), eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. Afternoons are a bad time to do study by reading. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. In a calm disposition concentration is much better and you will be able to study better. You may need to make notes and reduce the quantity of material to be studied and that will make it easier. Today the syllabus is very heavy and so it is difficult but you must find ways of giving more important topics more of your time and attention and that way you will prioritize your effort. 

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Dr. Prof Jagadeesan M SPsychiatrist19yrs exp

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cognitive behavioural therapy would be ideal for you. Find out the person who is doing good, nearby your place and try that. good luck 

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Dr. Senthilkumar AsPsychiatrist8yrs exp

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You need a psychologist and drugs may be needed if you cannot bend your perspectives even after 2sessions of psychologist's. A common problem especially with chronic low self-esteem and dependent/masochistic traits. Read about personality disorders in a library. Start analysing others psychology, their perspectives. Be a man, authoritative, make family for you, adopt a child to whom you would be the saviour/god --or easier if you visit orphanages and play a mentor to a couple of innocent students. You should play the role of a king in your story. Then you won't regret about these silly issues any more. Cheer up. Do your favourite things enjoy the life. Learn to forgive too. Live for yourself. Even god does not expect our gratitude and compliments. Sweet dreams. Be selfish a bit and taste the bests of life. Best of luck!  

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