Hi, I am short tempered I have suffered a lot in it and recently I had a breakup its affecting me a lot I couldn't rehabilitate my life I am anxious most of the time its been 1 years since that but still am in the same situation and now a days am facing problems due to my anger as I get very angry my veins on my forehead they are beeping wild I suffer from headache for the past three days I feel like my head is pressurised and due to this am getting fever if you can please help me is this normal things faced my short tempered person? It has to be treated.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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All the issues you mention are related to anger: headaches, fever and pressure. It appears like you are getting angry with yourself, which is absolutely the wrong way to deal with your anger. The way you express them has to be appropriate. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands; scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. All feelings must be expressed without exception. You need to meet with a counselor and learn all about handling emotions, especially anger. If the matter with the breakup is over, you must learn to accept that and move on. For this too you will need to talk to a counselor.  

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Dr. Madhurima GhoshPsychiatrist12yrs exp

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Yes it has to be treated. But before that you have to be assessed for any other underlying mood syndromes.  

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Dr. Krishna MurthyPsychiatrist48yrs exp

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Being short tempered is nothing wrong but if you find it beyond your control and causing distress to you, please take a psychiatry/psychology consultation, they may teach you Anger management Technics, More over you said you are Anxious too (please note Anxiety is a normal universally occurring emotion) which can make you angry too. Some counselling and a small dose of Medications may help you but that should be after detailed evaluation. Thanks.  

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You need to undergo psychotherapy for dealing with your emotional issues. Anger is an emotion and expression to anger is something which is learnt and can be modified with constant understanding of one's own needs and desires. Psychoanalytical psychotherapy will help you understand your unconscious motives and will help you be more integrated.  

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Dr. Sangeetha P LPsychologist1yrs exp

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There are many techniques for anger management. It is better to have your personality evaluation done as well to see which of your traits are not helping you. A consultation with a Clinical Psychologist would help. Many psychotherapy are available.  

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