I have problem of short temper What will I can do to control it. I became aggressive on nothing sometimes help me to change myself.

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You should not control your anger but learn to express it in healthy ways. Anger is a good feeling if harnessed well. In fact all feelings are good feelings and they are there to tell us to rectify something that is not going well. The cardinal rule to feelings is the expressions of them. All feelings must be expressed without exception. If you do not they will get internalized and harm the particular organ it has chosen to express itself in. Now there is a problem if you are getting angry suddenly, too fast or without reason. These are signs that there has been some problem in the past and that the concerned feeling has not be dealt with by expression. Sometimes by suppressing anger over the years you may be carrying an overload of unexpressed anger that will come out in impulses and with the least of provocations. These piled up emotions must be dealt with even now and after you have relieved yourself of past feelings you will be able to handle current ones with a lot of ease. Since you are already displaying so much anger at such speed, it indicates that there was something that had happened in your early childhood, including prenatal life, which is contributing to this situation. Your mom will know what that is all about, and equipped with that information meet with a counselor soon. In fact it will be easier to work on it now than later when the anger behavior will be too entrenched to remove easily. In the meantime go for regular and vigorous exercise daily, preferably the aerobic kind. Also you must introspect whether you are actually scared but choosing to act angry because it is a power feeling compared to being in fear. In that case you need to handle the fear and not the anger and your problems will cease to trouble you. Even so you must then find out about why there is so much fear in your life at this stage. Anyway anger management classes will be still beneficial for you.

Saul Pereira · Accepted Answer

You should not control your anger but learn to express it in healthy ways. Anger is a good feeling if harnessed well. In fact all feelings are good feelings and they are there to tell us to rectify something that is not going well. The cardinal rule to feelings is the expressions of them. All feelings must be expressed without exception. If you do not they will get internalized and harm the particular organ it has chosen to express itself in. Now there is a problem if you are getting angry suddenly, too fast or without reason. These are signs that there has been some problem in the past and that the concerned feeling has not be dealt with by expression. Sometimes by suppressing anger over the years you may be carrying an overload of unexpressed anger that will come out in impulses and with the least of provocations. These piled up emotions must be dealt with even now and after you have relieved yourself of past feelings you will be able to handle current ones with a lot of ease. Since you are already displaying so much anger at such speed, it indicates that there was something that had happened in your early childhood, including prenatal life, which is contributing to this situation. Your mom will know what that is all about, and equipped with that information meet with a counselor soon. In fact it will be easier to work on it now than later when the anger behavior will be too entrenched to remove easily. In the meantime go for regular and vigorous exercise daily, preferably the aerobic kind. Also you must introspect whether you are actually scared but choosing to act angry because it is a power feeling compared to being in fear. In that case you need to handle the fear and not the anger and your problems will cease to trouble you. Even so you must then find out about why there is so much fear in your life at this stage. Anyway anger management classes will be still beneficial for you.