I am 36 year old housewife working in a private school. I have 2 daughters. My problem is I get annoyed at every single thing that goes not according to my direction. I shout on elder one (11 year). Husband supports them a lot. Always tries to defend them. Everything I speak .he will say opposite and make children comfortable. I get really so annoyed. It feels as if my head will burst out. I really want to commit suicide sometimes. But I feel. I have to live for the children. Once they are old enough I can die. I see myself as a failure. I used to be a cheerful happy talkative but now everything's gone. I don't feel like going out. Having fun. .I have gained a lot of weight. I know I can reduce it by exercise diet. But I don't feel like going. That passion has lost. Whole life seems to be just strict. Shouting. Sometimes I feel I am getting too strict on daughters (11.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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If you have a husband who counters your every move with the opposite action and support, you will feel terribly let down and alone. Now, that you are trying to object to every move of your children, you will have become quite controlling. If you control too much then you are doing it from fear. It sounds like you are angry too for various reasons. You must meet with a counselor for your personal needs especially dealing with your emotions. You will also need to meet with a marriage counselor to sort out these differences cropping up with your husband and soon too. Your anger is turned inwards and will cause depression and self-neglect like your weight gain, and will eventually lead to suicidal thoughts. Your plan around that is ridiculous: life is very precious and should be to you and not for the sake of anyone else. You must look after it and show your daughters how to deal with life's adversities with gumption. For the depression, you must meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents, if they are around. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. 

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Dr. Jagadeesan M.S.Psychiatrist13yrs exp

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You seem to depressed. Agitation and irritability can be a symptom of depression or it could be an emotionally unstable personality. I would suggest you meet a psychiatrist, asking for sufficient long appointment, along with your entire family and work things our and find a solution. He may also suggest family therapy with a clinical psychologist. 

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