My wife is 27, she is very aggressive in nature and negative thinker. When she is angry she starts blaming me for she not being happy. She starts the work and leaves half way and she get bored of things very fast. If she is tense she just doesn't do anything except for sleeping. When she is angry she gets violent. She doesn't even come to doctor. What should I do.

Ms. Samiksha JainPsychologist9yrs exp

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Looks like you both are going through a difficult time in your marriage. Since you have only written about what she does but not about your behaviour, I sense that you either withdraw and remain quiet or both of you argue and it leads to fights between the 2 of you. In either case you will benefit with couple counselling so that you are able to talk to each other openly and transparently so that the actual problems can be spoken about openly. Communications styles differ in all people which leads to many misunderstandings and differences. A succesful marriage requires both parties to understand each other and participate in a manner to support the relationship, as well as personal goals and interests. A visit to the doctor will not be wrong either. Maybe both of you can go as a couple instead of making her as the" identified patient" (she seems to be feeling blamed and cornered hence refusing to cooperate). You could suggest to her that you want to see a doctor" for both of us" so that we can work out the differences between us. Say what you mean and do it genuinely. 

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